“We had celebrated 21 years of marriage when Jane was diagnosed with a rare form of breast cancer. The news was devastating, especially when the doctor told us that the only treatment they could offer would be palliative.
Jane was referred to Nottinghamshire Hospice’s Day Therapy and soon after the hospice contacted me to ask how I was coping and to offer me counselling. Having someone there to listen to me when all I wanted to do was cry and shout out kept me sane.
Although the chemotherapy appeared to be working and Jane seemed to be well in herself, we received more distressing news when the cancer spread to her brain. She quickly deteriorated and that’s when the Hospice at Home team stepped in. From the minute they arrived, I was able to relax and get some sleep knowing she was in safe hands.
The hospice were there throughout, for both Jane and myself; they gave Jane her dignity and were there for me when Jane sadly passed away in August 2013. Knowing there was somebody to talk to was comforting and although I no longer receive one-to-one counselling, I go to the hospice bereavement groups – it’s good to talk to someone who understands.’
If you need to talk to somebody we are here to help. We offer one-to-one counselling and have two bereavement support groups at the hospice, one of which is facilitated by a member of staff and the other by bereaved carers themselves. For more details please call the Support Services team on 0115 910 1008.
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